I’m sorry for disappointing you with totally no follow up on this blog. But let me tell you what exactly happened.
My intention with this blog was to show other day dreamers a way to take control of their MDD and in the process lead more fulfilling lives.
I was a chronic maladaptive daydreamer myself since my mid school days and it took me more than 9 years to figure out how to overcome this effectively. I had another blog on this topic before 5 years back but then I stopped it since I couldn’t really get over my addiction back then. I am in my twenties now and it took me this long to finally get over MDD completely.
Let me tell you that it takes a great deal of self-discipline to overcome the maladaptive daydreaming addiction. I was kind of over the whole thing while I started this blog last year, but then I underwent some serious trauma in 2013 which caused me to resort to maladaptive daydreaming for a brief period. Hence I felt that I wasn’t ready yet to guide others on overcoming their addiction with daydreaming. I decided that I’ll make sure, I’m completely over this and then blog my experience on effectively coping up with daydreaming once I return to a steady healthy lifestyle. It took me more than a year to finally call myself completely under control.
Now before restarting this blog, I want to share with you a few things:
- Maladaptive daydreaming is NOT a mental disorder
This is perhaps the first of things you need to understand if you are trying to get over MDD. It very much possible to control the urge to maladaptive daydream. It is not a disorder that needs clinical attention like say depression or schizophrenia.
Understanding this the first step to overcome this. I understand that many of you don’t want to get over it, and see MDD as a source to vent out your daily frustrations, but then you should understand to have a healthy control over your daydreaming hobby. Are you unable to control your urge to daydream even when you are in the middle of some important task? Is MDD affecting your routine in ways you can’t predict? If yes, then you need to sit back and think about this seriously. Even if you choose to daydream, it is important to bring it under control. MDD is more like an addiction than a mental disorder. If you have MDD that means that you are a perfectly normal human being. It is absolutely possible to overcome MDD by sheer will power and reflection on one’s own life.
- More people around you have MDD than you think
Yes. But then you don’t realise it because they don’t realise that they are having MDD themselves. If you hadn’t googled your symptoms, then you probably would be one of them as well, who understands that there is something weird about them but then ignores it as some appendage of silly acts of their childhood past. In fact, this is a much healthier state to be in, if you are a mild maladaptive daydreamer. This is because once you realise that it is not some weirdo thing that you do alone in this planet, you kind of start feeling that it is OK to maladaptive daydream and you are one of those poor kids born with this rare sort of disorder. Also, the articles in internet convinces you that you will end up leading an unsuccessful life if you suffer from MDD, and since not much research is being done on this topic so far, you are doomed for the rest of your life.
If you hadn’t come across the MDD information on internet, you would have probably come over this in the course of time. Now this whole idea of you suffering from a “disorder” makes you take your actions for granted. You tend to believe that you couldn’t have done anything to overcome it and blame it on your mental health instead.
So basically overcoming MDD is like overcoming smoking addiction. You don’t need a therapist if you are willing to try things for yourself. It isn’t easy, but then quitting smoking isn’t easy either. In the upcoming posts, I will post techniques that I adopted to overcome MDD myself.
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